Was 2010 Good For Your Relationship? Love Sex 0

In 2010, several famous couples dominated the media scene. Not many of these couples had good news to share when it came to their relationship. Sandra Bullock was cheated on by her biker husband almost at the same moment that she walked up to claim her Oscar. Elliot Spitzer cringed as yet another tell-all novel revealed his $100,000 prostitution spree. Elizabeth Edwards, prior to her death from cancer, left her cheating husband, although she generously bought holiday gifts for his love child. Charlie Sheen is caught in a hotel room with a prostitute, reportedly drunk and somewhat disorderly. Mel Gibson is outed on pre-recorded phone calls and accused of abusing his wife. Tiger Woods was caught having multiple sexual partners, well over a dozen, and ended up sex addiction rehab.

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If you were to do a review of your relationship, reflecting over the past year, how would your relationship look? Did you stand up to the pressures of 2010? How did you fare compared to the very public problems of celebrities?

One way to grow from the past and create a new more hopeful 2011 is to take an inventory of the past twelve months and see what you did well as a couple and where you may need improvement. You can use the following questions to help guide you. These may lead to a discussion with your partner and give you structure to help you review your year together.

One: What did you appreciate about your partner this year?

Two: In what ways did they show you they cared for you?

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Three: In what ways did you show your partner that you cared for them?

Four: How could you have done better and been a better partner this year?

Five: How can you work to grow into the partner you want to be for 2011?

Sit down with these questions and answer them as honestly as you can. Make a new vision for 2011 using these questions as a guideline. If you are like most of us, you will find ways to improve for the coming year. If you are like some of the celebrities who have had a rocky 2010, find ways to ask your partner to forgive you for ways you may have hurt them in the past.

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Moving into a new year can give us a fresh start and a new outlook on the future. Use this time to review your relationship and work on new skills to bring a happier and healthier experience to 2011.

And when you share this with your partner, make a toast – to them – for all you have shared in 2010, and to the future. This may be the most important toast you make all year.

About the Author: Dr Tammy Nelson is a sex and relationship expert and the author of the book Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

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